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A diplomat is a man who always remembers a woman's birthday but never remembers her age.
-- Robert Frost


The MONTHLY Motivator - June 2010

Letting go

You’re carrying around a lot of burdens. Guilt, fear, anxiety, resentment, regret, you’re offended by things, you’re frustrated by other things, maybe you’re angry. All that stuff uses energy -- lots of energy. It uses great amounts time and energy that you could be devoting to much more positive, empowering, productive activities.

And what’s even worse than wasting your time, is that you’re actually creating very negative consequences for yourself with all that negative energy. You’re sliding backwards when you give in to that anger and resentment and frustration.

There’s a very quick and simple way out, and it’s available to you all the time. The way out is to let go. Just simply let go. Let go of the anger. Let go of the resentment. Let go of the need to be offended. Let go of the feeling of frustration.

All those negative feelings are not being imposed on you from outside. It may seem that way. You may think you have no choice. You may think that it’s not your fault, that you’re being angry because someone is making you angry. But that’s not the case. That’s not the case at all. You’re angry because you have chosen to be angry in response to what’s happening. You’ve chosen to be angry because of what someone else has done. Actually, it’s probably not a response at all. It’s more of an automatic, mindless reaction -- something you programmed yourself to do a long time ago. Just a bad habit that you don’t even think about -- you just do it.

And then you hold on tight. You hold on tight to that anger, or resentment or frustration or guilt or whatever it is. And why exactly do you hold on to those toxic feelings? It’s certainly not because they do anything useful for you. It’s certainly not because they feel so good. Maybe it’s just because they’re comfortable. Maybe it’s just because they’re easy. After all, it can be easier just to react with frustration than to carefully think through the situation and to find a positive way to deal with it.

But there is another choice. And it is an enormously powerful, empowering choice that’s going to free you to advance and achieve like you’ve never achieved before.

And that choice is simply... to let go.

So, how do you do that? It’s really very easy. The “how” part is extremely easy. It’s the wanting to that can be tricky.

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--Ralph Marston

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