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The thing done avails, and not what is said about it.
-- Ralph Waldo Emerson


The MONTHLY Motivator - June 2007


Are you fighting against life or are you living it fully? Is each day a struggle or an empowering experience? One powerful way to move your life forward is through acceptance of where you are right now.

If you feel tied down, imprisoned or overwhelmed by life, acceptance can bring you a refreshing sense of freedom. If you seem to be unable to get anything done, acceptance can help you to be more effective. With acceptance, you can gain much more control of your life.

Why is this?

No matter where you desire to go in life, you must have a starting point from which you can proceed. On any given day, everyone has a starting point. Yet too often you may not be willing to see or acknowledge your own starting point, and consequently you’ll have trouble making progress toward your goals. It is a sad irony that your very unwillingness to acknowledge unpleasant circumstances can help to keep you stuck in those circumstances.

Acceptance will enable you to establish a starting point, and then to move successfully past that starting point toward whatever you desire. Success requires not only that you know where you want to go, but also that you acknowledge where you are right now. It is of little value to find your destination on a map if you cannot also find your present location. Acceptance will clearly show you your present location, and thereby enable you to get started on the road to where you have chosen to go. When you deceive yourself about where you are right now, it becomes impossible for you to effectively take steps in the direction of where you wish to go. Yet when you can truly accept the reality of your present circumstances, the pathway toward the life of your dreams becomes clear and accessible.

Acceptance doesn’t mean being passive. If there’s something you want to change, you can take action to change it. Yet before you take that action, you must first accept the reality of the situation so that your actions will be effective. Acceptance doesn’t mean that you approve of or support something. It just means that you see it for what it is, that you don’t deceive yourself about it, and that you don’t continue to punish yourself by hiding from it.

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--Ralph Marston

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