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The measure of a man's real character is what he would do if he knew he would never be found out.
-- Thomas Macaulay


Monday, August 28, 2023

Understanding and appreciation

The people around you don’t understand or appreciate you as much as you’d like. Get over it, get on with life, and save yourself a lot of angst.

You cannot force or guilt or otherwise manipulate someone else into more fully understanding or appreciating you. What you can do is work on your own understanding and appreciation of others.

Sure, it’s nice when people make an effort to understand you and let you know how much they appreciate you. But you have nothing to gain by repeatedly focusing your thoughts on how much or how little you’re appreciated.

Put that energy into offering and acting upon your own appreciation. Do the work to deepen your own empathy and understanding.

Other people will by and large relate to you based on how you relate to them. Any resentment you feel will be reflected back to you, so it’s in your best interest to let the resentments go.

Satisfy your sensible desire for more understanding and appreciation in the world in a way that actually works. Seek to improve your own understanding and express your own appreciation every chance you get.

— Ralph Marston

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